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Originally Posted by Tishie
I have an eleven year old son being bullied at school right now, and we tell him to tell us everything that is going on and we then deal with it.
He is eleven and had to deal with being called a feb to his face ( f****** english B****** we live in scotland) also being punched and kicked, I will NOT let him deal with this on his own we as his parents will deal with it thats one of the many reasons we are around so that we can deal with issues he is unable to, I dont want him to deal with this stuff thats our job !
We have seen the head teacher time and time again and will be dealing with her boss if it happens again, however we feel that this time it has finaly been dealt with, we have taught him that he can trust us as parents to deal with his problems and also taught him how we dealt with it so that in the future when/if he has children he too can sort things out the right way.
I would not hesitate to use the police either if I felt that is what is needed.
I think you was in a way silly going to see the parents imho as in the past I have met with some not so nice parents and this could of back fired on you however I admire you for doing so.
Our son also goes to martial arts I feel as parents we need to arm our children with many skills in this world.
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Hi Tishie,
thanks for sharing you experience and opinion. I was prepared for the worst and at first his mom was defensive , but there tone change when they saw what their son wrote. I saw a special on Oprah the other day and the experts seemed to say the parents should get involved only after the children have tried to solve things on their own. Regarding your son, I think you should also tell him to be assertive to the bullies because they might sense that he doesn't want to stand up to them and you'll just handle it. The expert said that the victims need to be assertive vocally and in their posture, conveying a 'don't mess with me attitude'. At my daughters school, they get teased more if the parent gets involved. I hope it all works out for your son.
