(((((((((((PinUpGal))))))))))))

Do you know how AMAZING you are? I was reading your post and all I could think was how incredibly STRONG you must be to put up with a husband like that AND be raising three kids at the same time. No one deserves to be told she's lazy or worthless or plain, especially not someone who has been through as much as you're going through now.

I'm not married nor do I have any kids but let me tell you that I have always believed -- after watching my mother, my aunts, my grandmothers -- go through everything from abusive relationships to raising their kids to working themselves to death in order to keep their families afloat ... women like them, women strong enough to head out on their own, to protect their children, to protect themselves, are the strongest, most beautiful women on the planet, and deserve nothing but a strong, beautiful relationship with someone who can see them for the strong women they are. Anyone who can't is a fool and does not deserve you. There are better men out there, for one, and secondly, even if it seems like you can't do this, you CAN.

It's just a thought but are there any women's groups in your area that might help you in this process? There will be people there who understand your position, not to mention who have been there themselves and can give you the advice and support you need. Do what you need to in order to take care of yourself and your children, and you will have every reason to feel proud of yourself.

Sending lots of hugs to help you through.