T is spontaneous, but he is very, very willing to look at his own "stuff" to see if it's coming into the room and affecting our therapy.

He's in this intense couples therapy training, and he told me that he thought about me during it because there was so much there that we could use in our therapy and our relationship with each other.

He has been in therapy for years and continues to go. When his stuff comes into the room, he tells me, and takes responsibility for it. That's one of the many things that I love about him.