I honestly thought my situation was "no big deal", that is, until I started talking - actually TALKING - about details of the experience. I didn't quite understand it until last night when he said that I had a lot on my plate. It seems I want too much too fast. He feels I'm making a huge amount of progress - doing things in weeks that take people months or clusters of months....and doesn't want me to be overburdened.

At first, I was anxious to just get it over with so I can start healing....But now I understand what he's trying to say. After bawling my eyes out last night - and again today - over the grief of the end of my marriage....I do have a full plate. I guess I just didn't realize it, because I feel I'm working so hard to move forward and keep wanting to get to what's next.

I guess my point is - take your time and try to deal with traumatic issues when you are not otherwise overwhelmed with other things. That way, you can deal with the process and the feelings associated with it.

I still wish I knew what the process was. I mean, what do you do other than talk about the details of the experience?