Hmmm, I think my T is very self aware of his motivations and feelings. But I also think he reacts spontaneously and genuinely. Can a person do both, or do you see them as at odds with each other? My T has had some counter-transference a few times with me, but he has immediately told me he what's going on and that he is struggling with it. I appreciate his "owning" this occasional seepage of his own stuff into our sessions. I have become a lot more self aware since beginning therapy with him and I think part of this is following him as a model. I don't think he hides a lot from himself (like I do).

Not really. I like my T the way he is, so I guess I appreciate his self-knowledge, his authenticity, and the way he owns his feelings. I haven't ever wanted him to change and be a different way.

What is your T like in this regard, pachyderm?