Things seem to calm down after that but yesterday my wife was sending jokes that she gets through text messaging to everyone in her contacts list...here's the joke...

"new stamp in the shape of a vagina. But, it's not selling because only 3% of men know how to lick the damn thing"

Here's his text back

"ha ha ha very funny. I'd show you here & now how to lick a ***** if my wife & your husband won't get upset. You big tease"



ok - first your wife might want to do -delete this ....... Ash pole (trying not to use the word - from her phone - and not text him again. he may see that as encouragement grrr

Then this happens the next day...

Just a little more background on this guy. A few months back his 2 kids 16 year old daughter & 13 year old son had an incestrial episode. When mom found out she went to wake up..well...I'll give a 1st name...Kevin. He said to go back to bed & he would deal with it in the morning.

sorry but this goes to show what an AH he really is - i would have dropped him like he had the plague!!!

He has also told me in recent months that his wife could die & it honestly wouldn't bother him. He could take the life insurance & pay off his bills & be a happy man. The really disturbing part to me is this wasn't in a heat of passion,it wasn't during an arguement...he said it completely calm, deliberate & well thought out.
BTW, he did "playfully" hit his wife in the back of the head knowing she's gotta have brain surgery.

A.H A.H!!!!!!!!!!! grrrrrrrr!!!!!

My wife feels like she's done something wrong.

she didnt but I think he would see a wave goodbye as encouragement - did I mention I thought he was an A.H !!!

I disagree. If anyone other than him did anything wrong it would be me. I didn't say anything about him rigging the contest because she would always take me with her...of course. I figured once he saw that she wasn't inviting him he would take the hint. Then after Christmas I thought that was a pretty blunt display on my part....

Now this text...

You didnt do anything wrong either - he is obviously so full of himself that he cant see anything else

So I need some advice here...because I think he's escallating...

here's thte methods of coming to a solution i have thought of...

1. Ignore it & see if by not responding if he escallates or ceases this.

think it would only send a message that its ok
2. I can physically beat the crap out of him...but does that solve the problem?

hmmm LK in prison - not somthing I would like to hear aboutand he's not worth putting your hands on
3. I can tell him that he was out of line & to stop. The thing here is that I think he might take this as me being "threatened & incourage him to escalate.
I agree
4. I could have Chris politely say she didn't think it was appropriate

this could work
5. I could have Chris very bluntly say that she has no interest in him in anyway...without me. So he knows it's coming straight from her.

by phone - not in person - he sounds like a slime

Which one of these options do you guys like best or do you have one I haven't thought of...

LK

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I would go with 4 followed by 5 if he doesnt get the message - this guy is not your friend - or your wifes - (sorry jmo but this makes me angry) maybe the competitive streak that you liked about him is part of the reason that he is keeping on trying with BC - im prob no tin the right frame of mind to answer this - so forgive me if I have come on a bit strong - but I truly believe this is a toxic person -

take care of you the lioness and the little and big cubs - no biting or clawing or raoring ok!!