But what do you mean by he encounters so much "difficulty" with you?
I had to learn to be very specific and deliberate in therapy, because he massive generalizations and omissions I made as a part of my everyday self-reference to current or past situations was inadequate. If I don't provide my therapist with a glimmer of what is going on, then he can't read my mind, and then he assumes a whole lot of stuff himself because I wasn't very direct and specific with him. I have since learned that you have to really identify the problem areas, and specifically commit to as specific and direct a communication with your therapist as is possible. That's what works best.

Please don't take this the wrong way, but from reading the board posts you are never very specific, and thus leave a lot out that make it hard to understand what the gist of your communication is. That's what I used to do. Sometimes now I overcompensate and provide a murky explanation with too much irrelevant details (ADHD derailing tangents sneak up on me sometimes). Usually though, it's the opposite. It's still something I work on to this day (doesn't help that I was never allowed to express and discuss my feelings or validate my total self (you know, like how you can have flaws and not be perfect and make mistakes and still be a good, worthy, decent, and talented human being with a lot to give). I try to plot out my therapy sessions before hand, and I get better at discussing things openly with my T (whom I have built a good deal of trust with over two years). My risks at self disclosure have paid big dividends. I can now even identify emotions now that I didn't even know how to before I started working on this... the more specific the better I find. Just my personal experience, but it does make sense.

Oh, and I see you did sorta answer my question before I popped my own, so sorry for the redundancy. I often hit reply rather quickly when something is on my mind, so I don't always catch if my question has already been answered sometimes.