Safe touch is situationally appropriate behavior that doesn't intentionally harm anyone. It's contextual to the situation. If I shake my T's hand, I consider that safe within the context that I'm in at the moment. Certain things I don't want from him, like a hug let's say---that's not really appropriate in our situation, and I don't need that from him in order to feel like he cares or what have you. The T must be on equal grounds with you in order for any touch to occur though...

I've heard of "body work" and whatever, but I'm not sure if I believe it to be beneficial to anyone. I think talk therapy with minimal touch is best to avoid negative transference and counter-transference. You also don't want to trigger a patient/client either, so it is best to play it safe. This probably varies on the patient. People are different, but there are certain types of touching that is boundary crossing, which any good therapist knows how to avoid in the first place (and if their patient doesn't know, they guide them out of the boundary crossing quagmire).

What I get from you, and correct me if I am wrong as I mean nothing negative here---is that you are not a very emotionally expressive person for whatever your reasons. Now you are at a point in your life when you want to be more open to giving and receiving open, positive, emotional responses, including "safe touch". I don't know why it is so important to seek safe touch from your T, but that's something you should think about. I would encourage you to take chances only when they are safe and you are ready to do so, that way you don't have a negative experience that causes a torrential downfall that deletes any progress you might have made.

Hope my words aren't offensive, but if they are I apologize. You always give me great advice, so I wanted to try a little bit of help your way--since I thought I could answer that.