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Originally Posted by del12
I have had a really difficult week and this morning it just was the last straw. Dealing with family that is dysfunctional and planning mothers day for an ailing mom. Our family has huge issues with control and communication. I was so upset dealing with them and dealing with the fear that my mother's health is deteriorating which I have been stuffing decided to surface this week. I have been an emotional wreck and I am scared to go to my mom's because I am worried I will fall apart emotionally and it is taboo to cry in my family. I just love the what's wrong with you question when I do cry. I have wanted to call my T all day and since we have never discussed the calling issue I have tried to deal with this myself. Basically telling myself I will be okay and I am making too much of this. What would I do before I ever had a T? etc... I have talked to a couple good friends who understand the crazy dynamics of my family and it helped somewhat at least I was able to share. If never discussed calling before do you think it is all right to call anyway?
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Sounds alright to call for a little bit more reassurance and understanding to me. As long as you aren't asking your T to solve every problem you might ever encounter, calling him for his advice on what color socks to wear tomorrow, I think you'll be fine.
I only call my T when I have an extremely difficult situation that I can't rely on anyone else for support with. These are almost always things we have touched on in session, and I always have the green-light to call him if I get in a dysfunctional state (when any action or inaction that I take on my own is actually more harmful to me than calling and risking annoying my T). Anyway, I don't worry so much about neediness, and from the sounds of it you don't either, so I say go for it.
If you have a serious situation and see no way out on your own, you need backup. T's are good for this.
