Jan. I think your Father is just wanting the best for you, and that he didnt need to be insensitive to your feelings. He Probably felt that since you help them out so much that you deserve help yourself. It is hard to feel independent at times with parents that are so involved in your life, but if you feel that you were slighted by your fathers behaviour then by all means ask him what he meant. I think you may need some clarification on what the reason was that your father felt that you needed help, and that is your right as well to feel less vulnerable by his actions. Take care Jan. PM anytime. Soidhonia