As the wife I have to have my say. I am sure many people are thinking I intentionally encouraged this it happen by fwding the joke. So lets acknowledge the elephant in the room. I understand the thought NOW. I didn't b4. To be honest I never took him serious before. It was causal flirting, didn't happen a lot, we don't see him a lot. And to be honest it was kinda flattering. I insulted him pretty good at Christmas about something so nothing had happened since then so I truly didn't think anything of it. I just laughed, though he (and others, yes even my mom) would get a chuckle outta it. He response was stunning. I didn't know what to do or say, esp being 600 miles away. I had my sister & mother in my ear telling me to ignore it, act like I never received it, and I didn't want to tell LK about it over the phone and didn't know how to respond. Hindsight being 20/20 I wish I had responded right away telling him what a jerk and how wrong that was........but i didn't..........and my guilt wouldn't let me just not tell LK....so I did........and....here we are.......
I want to be very clear, cutting them out of our lives isn't an option, she is my best friend and she is VERY sick, has to have brain surgery in July and I am the ONLY one (other than LK) doing anything to help her. Quite obvious her husband is a looser, here mom is worthless and her sisters, all 4 of them, are too caught up in their own lives to pay attention to her....
We rarely see the man. He is a work a holic but we sometimes play cards (maybe one night a month) Frankly I am praying that my friends, who knows what a sorry excuse for a husband he is, leaves him as soon as she's feeling better. This is the first time in 10 years she has been off psyh meds (she was being od) and she is thinking clearly, rationally and like her former self again. I duuno if she just worked out enough of her issues (sexual abuse as a kid) in therapy or what but she really doens't need the drugs anymore and she is seeing him for what he is...and caring...for the first time in a long time. And I do not want to lose her as a friend. I will not abandon her.
What I want to do is show it to her (I fwd the text to her too (the initial text) and let him face her wrath. She will let him know how inapproperiate it is!
~slouches~ I know I should have know better....I didn't and thats my fault so please don't beat around the bush. I expect honesty and I give it too. My motto is if you don't want the answer to a question...Don't ask it.......I don't have much of a 7 second delay anymore...wonder if it's the Zoloft??? Of and the story about marking his territory....~shakes head~ completely true.......