I have been on both sides of the fence......

First one was me doing the dumping on a guy who I had been with for nine months he was in agony and couldnt see that it was his own fault that I dumped him. He was not being the kind of boyfriend that he should of been and was really upset when I had had enough and told him I wanted out. I was told he had wasted nine months of his life on me and that I was ruining his life etc, when In actual fact if he had behaved the way he was meant to then we would still be together. Did it upset me that I upset him ? No not in the least.

Second was me leaving my husband yes but only because he had 'left' the marriage years before hand and left me single handed to raise the children. It was fifteen years of marriage and I was devestated that it was over but I couldnt take anymore. I had to go for councling to get over the divorce it affected me so badly. Was he out of order ? Looking back no he wasnt he was just being him and I chose to ignore it for fifteen years and stay. At the time I blamed him but he was just being him and again I stress I CHOSE TO IGNORE IT.

Yes he was a good actor and a liar and more experienced than me. He was seven years my senior. But as soon as the penny dropped I should of been out of there as I am master of my own destiny.