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Originally Posted by marjan
okay...lets get things straight....he didn't do anything to do...It's you doing it to yourself, even now....Nobody forces anybody to stay in a relationship...you stayed in the relationship....I met my ex husband when I was 26 and we've been together for five years....I would never ever say things that you say...I didn't have a good time with him at all, but I can't blame him for all those days....I was there too...
If you led a bad relationship deceive you, it's your own fault and you can't blame somebody else for that....you always have choice to make....
I'm so sorry to be so harsh on you....I'm single and 35 years old turning 36 in July and I don't have thoughts that "oh guys are not into me because of my age", because that's not true...I can date guys older or younger or same age....and you know why I can do that, because I don't think the way you think...so, age has never been an issue for me to date a guy....
The last guy I dated was same age as me, and he chose me over lots of other younger girlfriends....and I could see all those girls were into him, but he didn't care about the age....If a guy is this much stupid to think that 32 years old is old, then you are better off without him....
dating can be fun and can be so painful at the same time....I'm in the same boat as you....
Just you got to change your mind set, forgive your ex and let him to go with his life....you don't know anything about future....I had a friend who got married then divorced and then got married with her old love....so everything is possible....but you got to forget about blaming and having hatred into your heart, because that doesn't work....
AGE is not a problem at all....I can see some of my girlfriends older than me more successful in dating...even they date younger guys....
Have fun...You are very younge to have these thoughts....you have a life in front of you.....and get these thoughts away from your mind, then you will be fine....
take care  M.
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It seems to me Marjan may be on the right track, it
sounds a bit like you feel you have no control of life, at least in the relationships part of life (at the time of writing). It's essential you feel you have control of your life to be healthy and make healthy choices, I find this difficult when it comes to relationships but I force myself to believe it, sometimes against all odds.
Seeing yourself as a passive victim can be unhealthy, it can lead people to believe they have the right to victimise others, which tends to be a messy waste of time.
I have no doubt we men are more often useless jerks when it comes to relationships but you can't let us have all the power.
It's concievable you need to be more concious about what attracts you in a man, you may be picking jerks. I tend to find narcissistic women very attractive, but have to use my head and tell myself
no way!
Best wishes & Good luck!