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In 18 months of e-mailing T, I've found that response time can vary for ALL sorts of reasons. And the reason has never been "I'm ignoring you". Sometimes his life is crazy busy. Sometimes he's out of town, or has guests in town. Sometimes he's taking the weekend off of "work" and doesn't even check his e-mail. Sometimes he's in a training, or has had an emergency come up in his life, or he's sick, or....well, you catch my drift. So, really, TRY not to spiral too much about why she hasn't responded. (Even though I know that's hard!)

As for wanting to know something more personal about her....when I started therapy, I was TERRIFIED that I would find out something personal about T, and I made it extremely clear that I didn't even want to know he existed outside of the room (lol - poor T, I'm sure he was thinking, what have I got myself into here?) I had a situation in the past with a counselor crossing boundaries and had my guard WAY up.

Now I feel comfortable knowing more about him. He will tell me if I'm crossing a boundary when I ask...like once I asked him what he did the previous weekend, and he really wouldn't tell me...instead he gave me a general idea of what he likes to do on weekends. For a long time, I would ask about things in his office, since they all seem to have a story attached to them, and I learned a lot about him that way.

At my last session (or the one before) I asked him to describe his wife to me! And he did! That was a shocker. I thought there was no way he'd tell me that.

The longer we are together, the more he shares of himself. And the more I am comfortable knowing.

SO! That is my long-winded way of saying that I think what you asked is TOTALLY okay. I'm sure she will be more guarded about some things than others, but I bet she will share some of herself with you too.