Yes, this learning is quite a process... you are doing well, imo. You did what was fine, and she isn't open to it yet. The response is all about her, not you, you are correct.

Now, move on to what you wish had happened, what you wish will happen, or dispense with it altogether. You've done your part, imo.

It's past history that causes you to feel like it is all your fault. Don't believe those lies. They weren't true then, and they aren't now.

What is in YOUR best interest now?