As the wife I have to have my say. I am sure many people are thinking I intentionally encouraged this it happen by fwding the joke.
I think you did it innocently - and I dont think he needed any encouragement - i think if you had even looked in his direction he would have taken it the wrong way - just the way it is

So lets acknowledge the elephant in the room. I understand the thought NOW. I didn't b4. To be honest I never took him serious before. It was causal flirting, didn't happen a lot, we don't see him a lot. And to be honest it was kinda flattering. I insulted him pretty good at Christmas about something so nothing had happened since then so I truly didn't think anything of it.

hindsight is wonderful - but like i said - above ok.

I just laughed, though he (and others, yes even my mom) would get a chuckle outta it. He response was stunning. I didn't know what to do or say, esp being 600 miles away. I had my sister & mother in my ear telling me to ignore it, act like I never received it, and I didn't want to tell LK about it over the phone and didn't know how to respond. Hindsight being 20/20 I wish I had responded right away telling him what a jerk and how wrong that was........but i didn't..........and my guilt wouldn't let me just not tell LK....so I did........and....here we are.......

I would prob have done the same thing - wouldnt have known what to do either so dont beat yourself up about it ok
I want to be very clear, cutting them out of our lives isn't an option, she is my best friend and she is VERY sick, has to have brain surgery in July and I am the ONLY one (other than LK) doing anything to help her. Quite obvious her husband is a looser, here mom is worthless and her sisters, all 4 of them, are too caught up in their own lives to pay attention to her....

Im glad you are there for support - sounds like she needs it
We rarely see the man. He is a work a holic but we sometimes play cards (maybe one night a month) Frankly I am praying that my friends, who knows what a sorry excuse for a husband he is, leaves him as soon as she's feeling better. This is the first time in 10 years she has been off psyh meds (she was being od) and she is thinking clearly, rationally and like her former self again. I duuno if she just worked out enough of her issues (sexual abuse as a kid) in therapy or what but she really doens't need the drugs anymore and she is seeing him for what he is...and caring...for the first time in a long time. And I do not want to lose her as a friend. I will not abandon her.

sounds like she has been going through a lot - my sister stayed with an A-hole for 23 years - I hope your friend doesnt stay that long - maybe being sick wil help sort out what is important to her and who is not
What I want to do is show it to her (I fwd the text to her too (the initial text) and let him face her wrath. She will let him know how inapproperiate it is!

good idea.
~slouches~ I know I should have know better....I didn't and thats my fault so please don't beat around the bush. I expect honesty and I give it too.

If I thought it was your fault - I would have said so - you sent out what you thought was a funny text - thats all you did - YOU DIDNT DO ANYTHING WRONG - I prob wouldnt text him again with stuff like this - maybe in his mind he thought he was just being funny! NOT!!!!

My motto is if you don't want the answer to a question...Don't ask it.......I don't have much of a 7 second delay anymore...wonder if it's the Zoloft???
probably - Zoloft didnt work for me - am on cymbalta now - which is helping me more - although it took a month to kick in !!!

Of and the story about marking his territory....~shakes head~ completely true.......