I agree with dearyou and reina. Just because you are attracted to women doesn't mean you have to act on it. You don't act on other men you find attractive...do you? There is also the other end of that spectrum. There are several happily married couples out there with open relationships. As long as everyone involved is aware and okay with that, there is nothing wrong with it, in my opinion. That could also be something to think about. Best of luck to you thunderbear