I have to say I'm really surprised that everyone seems to think Brian should bring it up in T. I guess I just don't understand that. I understand that she is counselling Brian about issues in his own marriage, but I fail to see how that makes it okay to take away T's right to talk or not talk about her personal life. I am so surprised.

One of my T's had an ongoing legal battle in her family that must have caused her huge stress and pain. It was plastered all over the newspapers and in the TV news from time to time. All of it was public knowledge, but it was still T's personal life and it never once entered my head that I should talk to her about it. If she thought it had relevance to the therapeutic relationship or my therapy it waws HER place to bring it up, not mine.

I guess I feel very strongly the same way about this situation. Her private life ISN'T relevant to your therapy, Brian, even if part of your therapy is about your marriage.

The key word here is YOUR. Not hers. YOURS.

Respect her privacy eh? If she wanted to discuss it in your therapy or share it with you she would. She hasn't yet, but she still may do so, IF she thinks it's relevant. But that is her information to share, not yours to bring up.