Treehouse... the issue of your teen surfacing in therapy sounds really challenging. It seems like emotions and thoughts from my teen/young adult ego state have been surfacing a lot lately too. My recent obession with trying to work through managing both safe and intimate touch has caused a lot of issues to surface... I think my teen has been through this process before. I kind of want to discuss some of this in therapy, but then again NOT!
IDK... I feel my ego states, but I am in control of how influencial they are on my outward actions. In your case these ego states seem to pop completely out and you don't necessarily have control of what they say and do. This sounds REALLY challenging and I can appreciate why your are anxious. ((((Treehouse))))
All I can offer you is a simple ... have faith in your T to deal with her and you.
Also, in seeing my own son at 12, I think... "he aggravates the heck out of me..but on average he is not a monster. Maybe, I wasn't really the monster that I thought I was at that age either." Just consider that MAYBE the teen-you is not really as bad as you think she is. So, if she gets out...it might be good to see what she is really like and then deal with her. Not sure if that makes sense.
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Originally Posted by treehouse
I spend a lot of time with my 12 year old sons best friend/"girlfriend" because she and I go to all of his baseball games together.
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God bless you. I am having real trouble dealing with this age group :-) The boys...poking, hitting, teasing, and acting like total dorks drives me nuts. And seeing the girls attempt to capture the boys attention, looking like *****s because they haven't figure out MORE is not BETTER when it comes to make-up and accessories, and of course their brainless he-said-she-said chatter.
IDK Treehouse, sitting in the stands for 3 hours watching 4 innings of little baseball where the scores are 23 to 2 because the pitchers can make it to the plate... well I think every women in the stands is probably dissociating from the trauma this is putting us through. Believe it or not, I actually lost it the other night and pleaded for consession stand duty.
Sorry...kind of lost it writing this post. Anyway... I hope your therapy session is... a lot less painful than watching little league baseball.
