my t will hug me if i ask her to...altho usually it is one of the child peeps who does. currently in therapy we are working on safe touch as for me i tend to leave the scene as soon as touch is involved...so that is something i want to improve...it is is difficult and really hard work for me involving lots and lots of memories. she is even trying to teach me..outgoing stumpy how to safe touch and hug since i got no clue. (thanks mom..for all those lessons....ya know a hug might have been nice at some point)

she has probably hugged us maybe all of 10 times in 3 years so we are not talking about a ton of times and most of them were when we were vacationing in that fancy "spa" called "che bin" (aka the hospital)...the kid peeps needed something to calm them down from a mom type.

she knows that we get all caught up in memories and panic in her office that a touch on the leg will calm us (BUT she always asks if she can move next to us first and touch us).

hugs are weird...they feel good but not at the same time...its like we can't really relax enough to enjoy them yet.

she also said to us that normally she has a strict "no touch" policy with her patients but has bent that with us since it was obvious we needed it and would benefit from it so much. i think she is enjoying the challenge of us..we are her first did patient (and maybe her last!)

i don't think i would want one every session...nor touch every session. i think that would devaluate it for me...or maybe not ..my luck i would grow to love it..become addicted and then need a 12 step program...ah the story of my life.


as far as pdoc....well after i told him i knocked down a wall in the gym since i've been working out..maybe if i asked for a hug he might or he might run from the room screaming and afraid.

stumpy