Don't even think about shutting up about it all! That is NOT in your best interest! It doesn't take horrific abuse to cause the Stockholm Syndrome. I suffer with it with regards to the attorney/adjuster/insurance company's manipulation of me and my life because of an industrial accident I had.

Understanding that you might not react/respond the way YOU really think you wish to is a good step. It takes therapy (lots of mental work, logical thinking, etc and help from another) to work through this completely. The main thing is to be and feel safe.

You can set some limits on what you expect in this meeting. By drawing the line now, a realistic line, and rehearsing it... you have a better chance of "holding your ground." But don't feel bad if you fall back a bit. The best I can do at times is, when in doubt, leave. And I don't even do that all the times I need to.

You need to be - and feel - safe. You decide what that is, OK?