Hi CaptainRubyHeart, and Welcome,
I'm sorry for what you went through. Just because you were not physically raped, doesn't mean that the situation wasn't traumatic.

You are traumatized. And that is perfectly normal.

It sounds like you need to seek some help with a therapist, or rape crisis center, or support group.

Your husband probably just doesn't understand what effect such an experience can have on a person. It isn't his fault, but it sounds like he needs to learn a bit more about the effects such a trauma can have.
Marriage counseling may be helpful.

I know this might seem overwhelming. But please be patient with yourself. A T once told me that when you go through a trauma it is like there is a flood, and as you process and deal with the trauma the floodwaters gradually recede, and you can start picking up the pieces.
Take good care of yourself.....