HI Deli,

My T gave me this analogy, which really helped me understand why I continued to put myself into an abusive situation.

It is like a person who is stranded in the middle of the ocean. They become so thirsty (for water, or love/affection), that they start drinking the salty water. And then the salty water is wrong and makes them even THIRSTIER, so they keep going back for more and drinking it, until it eventually kills them.

When you are manipulated by someone, part of you may feel so bad that you continue to go back to them to try to feel better, or to make the situation right, but since you are going back to a manipulative person, it is like drinking the salt water.....it only ends up hurting you more.

I don't know if this analogy makes sense to you or applies to you.....if not that's ok.....I want you to know I read your post and I care.