Quick update:

T and I realized at the same moment yesterday that teen is into DISTANCE. I was laying on the couch and T was in his chair and Teen was so so so so so LOUD in my head. There was no way I was going to be able to tell him what I needed to.

He came and sat with me and she retreated. And I was able to do what I needed to do in session. T made it very very very clear that she is welcome, but that others need their time too.

I guess it worked out.