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Reina-Rena · May 12, 2009, 04:35 PM

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Originally Posted by ladymacabethadmunsen

I see.

I think that...we all tell small lies....to make people like us. I don`t know how you feel about it - but it seems to me that if we realize that we are good enough as we are we don`t need to tell any lies. The truth is enough.Is good as it is. But i personally dont think its that bad. like: what the heck, are you telling me that if he knew you WERE kissed b4 and had boyfriends, he wouldnt go out with you?!

At the time, I just felt like he would like me better if I made myself up to be a better person than I actually was. I didn't like the 'old' me, I wanted to be a 'new' person...I know now that just because I wanted to be a better person, that it doesn't mean that I should lie about myself.

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Originally Posted by ladymacabethadmunsen

I think this is no big deal, i understand that for both of you it is. i think that if you, with Gods help - will stay together for more years - you will look back and laugh and this. i know now it hurts and all that. i understand much better what you are talking about right now. you cheated once and now you dont want to cheat second time. it all reminds you.

I do sometimes feel like we will laugh at this in the future... I think where we started going together at such a young age- we had to learn how to 'grow' with one another. We are going to change because we are growing and maturing, right?

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Originally Posted by ladymacabethadmunsen

anyways you got your "punishment" by being called names etc... so - now - does he forgive you? if he really loves you i think he will.

Even if it takes some time.

Yes, he has forgiven me...The problem is with forgiving myself.

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Originally Posted by ladymacabethadmunsen

Good you are in therapy. good luck with it

Thank you so much for all your help and advice! I really appreciate it!