you, my dear Muffy are not stupid
my T would say somtimes we may do stupid things but that doesnt make us stupid it makes ou actions stupid - and leaving it there was not stupid it was a way of holding onto him - so not stupid ok

Helpless.... you couldnt stop him from doing what he thought was right - you have brought him up to be strong and independant from what you have said and you have loved him - what more could yu have done ?

My heart goes out to you Muffy