I was sitting on my deck this afternoon, sipping a cup of coffee....and I noticed my one neighbor's 8 year old son and my other neighbor's 8 year old daughter acting suspicious at the side of the neighbor's house (right next door).

The boy sat down on the ground, while the girl kept a look-out to make sure nobody was looking.

He then undid his belt and exposed his privates. She touched him. And then she straddled him and put her tongue in his mouth.

It all happened so quickly....and I was totally triggered by it because of my own past SA....I stood up, and the kids ran to the other side of the house.

I immediately called the girls mom....she was out at the moment, freaked and told me to call the (step)dad. I called him, and he freaked. He automatically assumed it was the boy who was initiating it....he was going to call the police, take the girl to the hospital to get checked out, etc. I was getting ready to leave for group T, and the girls grandmother came over to talk to me to understand what was going on....then the grandfather....I said what I saw objectively to them, because I did not want to cloud it with any kind of interpretation or judgement.

I have no idea how they decided to handle the situation....but the girl has been telling my daughter and others that the boy touched her privates. I did not see that at all - although I'm sure it has happened...because another neighbor of mine said she saw them hiding on the side of her house once acting inappropriately.

Also, I was not the only one who witnessed this. Another neighbor claimed that she also saw her straddling him....but I got a much clearer view.

So.......I told the mom. I told the dad. I told the grandparents. They told the boys mom.....I am unsure of any other action that was taken, and I feel it's none of my business at this point.

BUT, I am struggling with whether or not I have an obligation to report this to DYFS. This seemed so much more than just kids exploring. An 8 year old straddling a boy and sticking her tongue in his mouth??? It seems like a sign of sexual abuse. And I don't know if I should do something more about it.

HELP!!!

As an aside, it triggered a lot of memories for me....bits and pieces.....that I was never sure of whether or not it really happened....but as I'm reading on signs of sexual abuse, I realize that I did similar kinds of things when I was younger....which may validate what may have happened to me that I can't remember.

THIS is why I was unable to talk in group T tonight. I was just too triggered and distraught....