Hi Valexand,
I agree with Marjan on this.
Philosophically speaking, morally speaking or whatever... you're EX was not then, and is not under any obligation now, when it comes to your emotional well being or personal welfare.
He doesn't owe you a thing!!!
People break up all the time, Valex! If other people are able to break up and move on with their lives... why can't you???
I know you want to blame your ex for your life now... but really...
IT'S UP TO YOU to heal yourself
and IT'S UP TO YOU to learn how to be more resilient during those times when life doesn't give you what you want
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As I said before in response to another one of your threads...
"When life hands you lemons, learn to make lemonade."
So... my dear... it's time to pull yourself up by the bootstraps...
It's time to stop throwing a pity party for yourself... and it's time to move on with your life!!!
Yesterday is history... let it go!! Let it remain in the past.
Move forward and embrace the present.
It's the only gift of life we got... so make the most of it and stop looking backwards.
Peppermint Patty
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Originally Posted by valexand
"lets get things straight....he didn't do anything to do...It's you doing it to yourself, even now....Nobody forces anybody to stay in a relationship...you stayed in the relationship....I met my ex husband when I was 26 and we've been together for five years....I would never ever say things that you say...I didn't have a good time with him at all, but I can't blame him for all those days....I was there too...
If you led a bad relationship deceive you, it's your own fault and you can't blame somebody else for that....you always have choice to make...."
I don't feel that you are correct. He had tons of experience before being with me. I had none. He was my very first experience and although it sucked, I thought that this is how things are supposed to be. I didn't know any better and at the time I was too isolated to see how other relationships worked. Plus, he wanted our relationship to be hidden, so basically NOBODY had seen his "wrongdoings" and nobody had a chance to get close to me and maybe warn me.
I stayed with him because I was madly in love with him. I was as good as blind. Is it my fault that I was deceived? Really? I never saw it coming. He was too clever for me. I was completely unaware and in good faith. His acting was amazing, what can I say.
I think when you're in love, you don't see choices. You are mentally incapable to think straight. You just think of him and all the things you can do to make him happy. On the other hand, this guy, or any guy that KNOWS how to play with genuine and unaware hearts is 100% guilty for manipulating and taking advantage of a person in love.
Also....dating a younger guy is risky. He'll just stick around for 1-3 years. When the craze is over, his eyes will bounce to the next -younger- model. He's going to leave. So....why bother putting yourself in such agony?
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