Peppermint_Patty

In my own experience... I only send such jokes to people who I REALLY TRUST... people who I know with a high degree of certainty will not misconstrue the message!!
He's been recieving them for years & never responded in such a way...in the past when we found something that triggered this behavour we avoided it.
Instead of a hypothetical analogy, I'll share a real life analogy in the appropriate setting...

Comparing a professional work anology with a boss doesn't apply...it's like trying to solve a geometric problem in the gap plane but using mathematical methods that are typically applied to the Cartiesian plane...you'll get an answer but it will be based off of faulty assumptions...

anywho...I digress... real life example....when we found out that he fixated on what she did sexually that his wife doesn't we avoided that topic...

Now from this point forward, it would not be appropriate to send anything like that because there is a data point of an unwanted reaction...

We still have to socialize with him to a degree because of the extenuating circumstances with his wife.

sending that text message to your friend was about as dumb as trying to pet an animal that is sick with rabies...
(Cartiesian vs. gap again)
Not "dumb" if you think the animal is sufficiantly muzzled

your wife did leave the door open with that text message.

He clearly took it that way, so I guess you understand the thinking process that leads to that conclussion a little better than me

P.S. I am glad you agree with me about the jersey issue. That was definitely Jerry Springer!

Yeah, & I would do it again...it got the desired result for five months....he kept his mouth shut.

Thankfully I wasn't on the Zoloft yet or I wouldn't have gotten to toss the shirt back to him until New Year's

take care,

LK