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Originally Posted by Fool Zero
Could it be that you're not so much afraid of something, as eager to get on with it, find out what there is to deal with and how it goes?
Maybe you did make some mistakes with those jobs, too -- but could it also be that you just found yourself in a crazy work situation where no one could be expected to thrive? Maybe you need to learn, not so much how to get along in an unsuitable situation, as how to find a suitable one.
I'm mostly a freelancer myself so I haven't had much exposure to office politics, pecking orders and stuff in a long time. The last "job" I had (part-time, alongside my freelancing) lasted for over 20 years. My boss was one of the two best I've ever had, and apparently my skill set and attitude exactly matched what she needed. At one point an "office bully" emerged among the staff and began complaining about me (among others). I'm told that our boss quietly informed her that she couldn't run the place without me so if there wasn't room there for both of us, I was the one she was keeping. There turned out to be room for both of us after all  . I didn't leave till 6 months after she sold the business to someone else.
I didn't find this job by the usual routes -- want ads, resumes, stuff like that. I'd been doing volunteer work where her brother and sister also volunteered, her brother knew me and pointed me out to her sister, her sister hired me, then left and passed the manager job to her.
All this is by way of saying that I seem to do much better in work situations where the management knows me personally, is up to making good use of me, looks out for me at their end of the shop, and lets me look out for them at mine. Do you suppose something like that might be what you need, too?
Anyway, best of luck to you! A kind and gracious lady like you should have a work situation to match.  |
Good morning FZ,
Oh, your initials sounds so fuzzy and warm (or is it warm and fuzzy)?
Thank you for your kind, wise words. I think you have hit some of what I'm thinking right on the head.
Anxiety and fear are cousins, and it is the unease of not being able to be hired at a time when I want/need to be that is the "thing" cycling around in my head some days. I use distractions so much of the time to not feel it, some of the distractions are wonderful, like the time with my grandchildren, daughter, etc that perhaps that is really just life and I sometimes have not recognized that is what it is.....blah blah blah....
Well, it's 6:25 and I have a reevaluation with the physical therapist at 7:30, I should leave in 5 minutes. Then grocery shopping and on to my therapy appt.
What sort of work did you do before you did strickly free-lance work? And yes, I know I made mistakes at other jobs, but they were job mistakes, not so much people/behavior mistakes.
And I do wish there was that type of opportunity around for me to "step" into. I did try to volunteer and that place didn't have anything for me at the moment. Think I'll call them back today after t.
If they don't have something, heck,
they have other places in town who would appreciate and can use me. The nurse in my pdoc's office who runs the office said that one of the other hospitals had the best coffee, when I asked her which hospital she though would be the best to work at
