ok - this is a support board right???

maybe there has been enough rehashing of the event and we can continue with some constructive advice for moving forward

although, - I think LK and BC have it worked out - minimise contact with him - all contact with him via LK and keep in touch with the sick wife to offer encouragement and support.

Do I basically have that right LK? BC?

I think everyone makes mistakes - dwelling on them is somthing therapy teaches you not to do - you learn from them and move on trying your very best not to repeat them - although somtimes we do because we are human )

Wishing everyone on this thread a wonderful day or night depending on where in the world you are .