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<font color="blue"> I just don't think it's that healthy to feel like you need forgiveness when you weren't trying to harm, when you were doing the best you could.

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most people confuse GUILT and SHAME.

"Guilt says I've done something wrong; shame says there is something wrong with me." Bradshaw (1988)

does it help a person with shame to be told "forgive yourself?"

_Sky . . . i think you have a good point. for me, i need to be told over and over "it wasn't your fault."