I agree with reflection. They are not lame, they are there just like you aren't they? Perhaps some might have shown some false compassion and then you may have felt the falseness of that also? It sounds like you did a big thing talking about it and expected completely different results? You forget you've held this knowledge for a long time, but they heard it for the very first time, give each other time and space to come to each ones own reactions and feelings around it.