((((impy))))

that must have been so difficult for you. but, like the others have said, sometimes it just takes a bit of time to process. i told something to pdoc once, there was a beat where i saw it register, and then he just continued talking on about something else completely. he addressed it the next time i saw him, but i was a dumbfounded myself. i never would have expected that reaction, ever. especially from someone who was meant to be supportive.

i went back to your other thread, to see if you had responded to my post there. guess what? no post from deli!! looks like the post-monster got hungry again. but the essential gist was that i think you would be safe sharing with us, if you wanted to. i know you don't think we'll respond well, and it really would be putting yourself in a place of vulnerability, but at the same time - a lot of us have been in similar places to yourself. our puny brains might be able to stretch enough to be able to 'get it'.

the other point was that you seemed (and i'm interpreting a very hazy post here, so i'm probably wrong) to be saying that you fit this "type" of guy, and that women typically would have a problem with that. forgive me if i'm way off track. but if i'm not completely missing the mark: then yeah - i think it's possible that you are abusing yourself with general truths, but you should always remember that you are so much more than just a "type", and most women would also see beyond this even if they answered "yes" to your hypothetical general question.

don't know if that helps at all. if not, just pretend i didn't say any of it, and just came here instead to give you hugs >>> .