Deli,

T doesn't sound very tactful. Perhaps he was making a bold statement challenging you to see how much effort you would make toward your own healing. Some t's are like that -- they speak things direct and kind of in your face. I know I'd have a hard time with a t that was that direct/in my face because i get my feelings hurt so easily. I don't see him calling you selfish though. I know you feel badly, but please don't make too hasty of a decision to quit. You are NOT bad!!