I'm trying to determine if my Mother has a mental disorder. I hate to air my dirty laundry for the all the world but I have noone to ask who can relate.

The issues go futher back but my mother moved 11 years ago to get away from a 2nd failed marrrage and loss of friends. She moved and then found another man in other state and re-married 5 years later. I really like this man and have always noticed him as incredibly patient and tolerant of my mothers demands and moods. My mother and I have never been able to get along and I really have to be careful not to disagree with her or go against her feelings or ideals especially if she has been drinking. I have different values than she does and I find her to be incredibly pushy on her will, demanding and manipulative. However, she shows lots of love and empathy for me, her pets and her grandson. I remember as a kid she would come home from work in horrible moods and lock herself in her bedroom for up to 2 days. She traveled alot so she was gone most of my childhood. I know she suffers from depression and always talks about percription drugs. How they cure this and that or how I need to try that...I've never been into drugs or alcohol. My mother has was fired from her job and has since retired from working at age 60. Their house is paid off (the step dad owned it from before the marrage) I figure they are going to be ok into old age.

I had recently had my first child last summer. My wife and I have a great marrage and wonderful life. I never thought I'd be this happy. Ever since, my mother had been trying to talk her husband in to getting a second house closer to us or moving. Her husband entertained the idea but I knew he loved the city he lived in and was not going to go with the plan. I also know they do not earn or have enough retirement saved to afford a second home as my mother has blown through more than 70k of inheritance money with nothing to show for it.

So to shorten the story, my mother is getting another divorce and trying to move back here. She is trying to claim spousal abuse and physical violence and has the whole neiborhood involved in this so I hear. I know this is false as this man is not the violent type and swears to me its not true. I have seen him do some very nice things for her and have spent time travelling with him. She has pushed this type of senario before. I have told her that I know what she is doing and will not accept it. But time goes by, mothers day cards arrive and birthdays come and go, everything is ok to her after this so she ignores my dissapproval. Now my step-dad is in fear of the police as she has involved them. However there are no charges or alligations against him. I am told all of her friends will not talk to her anymore as she cannot get along with them now. I believe she is mounting a false case for the divorce court to get her way back to my town. I am also told she is chasing mood altering drugs with alcohol and closing the local bar, wondering home and pulling into different peoples driveways.

Here are the drugs she is currently using:

Alprazolam .25 mg 1 pill three times a day
Hydrocodone/apap 750 mg 1every 4-6 hr
Ambien cr 12.5 mg 1 @ bedtime
Gabapentin 1 x 2 DAY
Cymbalta 1x 2 a day

I absolutely cannot have her living close to me or my family. What can I do? What do you think she is suffering from?