I can certainly understand how you feel about this relationship and it seems that you were used...or you feel so.........I guess everyone has rights.......there is no right or worng way to break up.....and I kind of agree that 4 years is a long time to invest.......on the other hand folks marry and break up after 20 years...all too common. We all invest and sometimes time is the deciding factor.

What I dont agree with is the "age" thing at all. I just dont feel that age is such an important thing these days. I see and know many couples who have 10-15 years difference in age......both ways. They are healthy and happy relationships that are loving and respectful.
I can understand that if you are 32 and look 26 a guy might be shocked! But not in a bad way! Gee what guy doesn't want a gal who is smart, is able to carry a conversation and look years younger? I don't know any guys like you discribe wanting the young gal........we all age....I think most mature responsable guys understand this.
As a man I worry about a girl being attracted to me in the looks department.....but I am more worried about how our personalities are and how we get along. Is she passionate about me...or just thinking I am handsome.....I guess what I am trying to say is that not all guys are like you seem to be meeting or experiencing.......

It just isnt so......I know the old cliche' that the guys will all run to a 21 YO in the hot looking bathing suit, but seriously I do not know one gyuy that has done that. What they have run to is a woman who puts them first in their life..loves and adore them...they arent 21.
In all honesty if I even witnessed an event like you told while out I think I would actually have to say something to that guy had he approached me about this or if he were bloviating to folks around the club......good thing you didnt get any further with that cat!

I don't know how this happens or even why.....but I have been all around the world whiel in the Navy...I never saw anything as rude as you wrote about and I'm actually ashamed to be a guy after reaidng something like that! Golly!

There are lots of nice guys out here who wouldn't care a bit about a number. I sure hope you find this out fast, because it just isnt so! That guy and anyone like him give the nice guys a real bad name...it just isnt so!

Sorry!