yeah I would never try to convince him out of marrying her or preach to him about it. they have been together for 4 years now and i have never brought it up once - he just knows that i can't stand her. i still go over for thanksgiving and christmas and don't say anything to him about her but he still knows.

i just don't know how to go about telling her to stop in front of my dad. unlike her, i think i have a little decorum, and don't go mouthing off in front of family members like that. but it's impossible to ever get one of them without the other - they're together as much as 12 year olds in love.

i know, deep down, that i'm not actually going to say anything - i never have the guts to. and i know i wouldn't want him trying to tell me i'm with the wrong guy (then again if a guy were ever that rude to my family i'd leave him anyway) i just needed to tell someone how awful this woman is and how much i don't want her in my life.

thanks for everyone's advice. he called me this morning but still didn't tell me. i think he's scared to. oh well. i'm sure he'll go and do it, then tell me after the fact.