((knothead))
jmo...
but I agree it is abuse. so many of us think it has to be "really bad" because we are so used to it that we accept, oh that's just the way he/she is
in reality his attitude towards you--blaming you for his "problem"--and the other things you mentioned are demeaning to my way of thinking. Lying to you? It does not show respect for you...first by actually doing it, second by continuing to do it.

jmo...
Catherine