Hello (((KH))). I feel KH that you may not feel that what you went through with your husband was emotional abuse (Totally), and may have doubts about whether his behaviour toward you was abusive at ALL. Your husbands behaviour did show disrespect towards you on many levels, emotionally and sexually, and Possibly if not more Probably found you feeling insecure not only regarding your relationship with your husband, but with whether or not you could trust him PERIOD. These type of feelings of confusion in validating yourself need to be addressed with your therapist, since you may not even know how to describe how you Really felt living with your husband. This is very common when you may have other self esteem issues that may confuse you in not knowing what is and isnt emotional abuse. You are Not Alone in feeling this way KH, and I hope you talk to your therapist about these issues, and let the therapist help you even though you may never truly see it as abuse, because it may still be causing you to make decisions or affecting your life in a negative manner where trust is involved. Take care (((KH))). PM anytime. Soidhonia