Yeah, my mom doesn't have to put up with him necessarily, but christmas and other family occasions, he's always felt it appropriate to bring her along. The first year my sister forbade him to bring her into my sister's house and he went along with it. But now she's there all the time. And, at least my ex-step-mom was nice to my mom, this woman wont even look her in the eye.

I know he has always been pretty immature and needs someone who can constantly treat him as a mother and not a wife. But yes, it has an effect on me personally.

Here's a good example: my 18th birthday my dad said he was going to take me to lucnh, get me a tattoo (i'd been begging for one for years) and then take me shopping. Pretty much spend the whole day together. So, we got to the tattoo parlor, just him and I, and without asking me, he invites her. So she shows up, is there the whole time. Then, after I'm done, they left together. So I saw my dad for about the hour it took to get my tattoo done. No lunch. N shopping. No hanging out even. That was probably the most upsetting time. The one day I wanted with my dad - one of the biggest birthday's and most memorable, and she HAD to bring herself into it. Even if he did invite her, why couldn't she understand and say "no, you need to spend time with your daughter". She had to call him when she knew we were supposed to spend the day together and somehow butt her way into it.

Yes, I'll agree that slut is the right word. He had refused her advances for months considering they were both married and she wouldn't let up. I'm not putting all the blame on her either. I know my dad should be smart enough to know how to handle tht situation. But he's only human, and when you have a woman (who is 16 years younger than him btw) hitting on him constantly.....what do you expect him to do after months of that?

And my T said that (and my dad knows this too) that I'm putting more blame on her because I don't want to 'hate' my father and it's easier to hate this woman than him so I make it seem like its all her fault. And I partially agree with that too. But....he's my dad. I can't just break off ties with him y'know. Jeezie petes.