The session sounds hurtful.
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Originally Posted by deliquesce
he said he is being all "give, give, give" in our relationship and that there needs to be some reciprocality.
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Usually it's the client who wants more reciprocity, not the therapist. He's not your standard T, I guess.
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he is not going to help me challenge any cognitive distortions anymore
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If he said this to me, I would say, "great. I'm tired of CBT too, and it's not that helpful. I look forward to a different approach in therapy. What do you propose?" ("Have you heard of Lifespan Integration?"
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it was his job just to give them to me, not to see that i used the techniques
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This comment and his feeling that all he does in therapy is "give, give, give" makes him sound really burnt out with being a therapist. Maybe his week off will do him good. I think you should talk to him about this. If he really is burnt out, a new therapist with more enthusiasm and stamina would probably serve you better.
Please don't put this all on yourself, Deli. One of the things my T sometimes tells me is that instead of reacting to someone who appears to have slighted you with hurt and hackles up, turn to them with interest and ask them, with curiousity, to clarify what they said, and listen to them carefully. He said a lot of times you learn something and end up not needing to be hurt or angry after all. But if you try that and get only verification (e.g. "when I told you that you were a butthead, that's exactly what I meant"), then there is time to be hurt or pissed off or shrug your shoulders and leave them behind.