It sucks when they make us question our own memories. I have very different ones than my mom as well and it drives me up a wall!! Why can they not admit they're not perfect and maybe made some mistakes. Owning up to it would make me feel better, would it you? If your mom's or dad's owned up to it would it ease the pain? I think it would for me but I didn't have the tramua that you had to endure. ~hugs~