is there an actual name for what I call push-pull behaviour, in which one wants to be close to some other(s), but at same time strongly pushes away anyone attempting to get close?

is this kind of behaviour found in any category?
Note: NOT talking about voluntary, premeditated behaviour, but rather, automatic, impulsive.

I feel a little tongue tied asking the question, so sorry if I am not clear; but I;d like to know. I don't mean to be cryptic; there is a lot of pain here.