My friend just got back from a learning assessment where she was "officially" diagnosed with a "nonverbal learning disability".

He also said that it was like she had Aspergers, but that she was actually actively social and can build relationships and all that... (So he didn't diagnose her with Aspergers)

Is that possible? Can one HAVE Aspergers, but still be able to be "social" and all that? I'm assuming it's on a continuum, right? Different levels? I've looked at some of the symptoms and whatnot... and it does sorta sound like her.

She does (and I admit it as her friend) have a lot of difficulty in conversations in that she can be remarkably self-centered, where the conversation IS all about her or just her talking. She also has some verbal quirks and gestures that don't seem like anxiety or something like that - they literally seem like extraordinarly mild autism.

I'm confused. I'm not trying to diagnose her, however I really would like to be able to HELP and perhaps find ways to actually continue to be her friend in a more healthy way. Right now, she actually burns me out with her constantly having issues with others, the one-sided conversations, and her constant complaints about life and issues... not saying thats because of an issue (mental or emotional) but could just be her personality... but still... I really do want to help.

Any advice, wisdom?