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Old May 15, 2009, 07:03 PM
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Originally Posted by mixedup_emotions View Post
Thanks everyone....

My husband's T did not disclose anything to me about my husband's therapy. It was my T that had the feeling based on my sessions with him - and also from what he knew when we were seeing him as a marriage counselor. He did not do anything inappropriate.

Also, when we signed documents to seek treatment here, we agreed that they could talk to each other. They just chose not to in order to be objective when dealing with each of us individually, since it was a strange combination.

Nothing was said to me about my husband's therapy.

I am slowly starting to become more afraid for my life....I've added slide locks to all the doors so he can't come in when we're here (since he still has keys to the house). I will be picking up some mace to keep in various places of the house.

I am afraid for my daughter's life...even though he has never shown any indication that he would ever hurt her. But, the dynamic is different now with everything going on.

I am afraid to take that next step of getting a lawyer involved because I'm afraid that my husband will snap.

I don't know what to do.
You need to stay somewhere else before you do anything else. Why haven't you changed all the locks? It probably won't matter much anyway, because if he really wants in he'll break in, but still common sense says you don't need to have an open door policy to an abuser, and that's what a key is. What's stopping you from temporarily moving until you get something more solid figured out?

Secondly, are there any credible threats to your safety that you can get a restraining order and file charges against him (to get him locked up and removed from action)? I'm hoping you stay safe
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