hey sweetie - i'm not sure i really understand. are you saying T sent you an email, but refused to give you a call? did you specifically ask him to call you, but he sent you an email instead?
my first impression is that he got caught up elsewhere and couldn't make that call, but sent an email instead (e.g., my old T sometimes sent me emails while he was in a conference). but i'm not really sure about what's going on here - what the circumstances were.

i think you did a good job to express yourself, though. and i hope you can clear it up, so you feel safe enough to disclose today. not that there is pressure to disclose today, just that you need to feel safe before you disclose. and i hope T can work with you towards that.