i'm actually with impy that i am surprised that ppl who have likely been in this situation before couldn't or didn't have the capacity to reach out and give even the slightest amount of caring or concern.

if i disclosed something that was terribly hard for me, the least i would expect would be someone to reflect "hmm, that was hard for you to do" or "you were brave" or something. even if they didn't have the compassion to be like "i'm sorry that happened".

i think that one guy who did make that comment, impy, was trying. it wasn't very useful to you, but i think maybe you could look at the sentiment behind it - that he felt the need to give you *something*.

i am wondering, though - quite apart from this - how you've been finding group in general? have you found it useful before? myself, i think i'm too analytical a person to be able to benefit from discussing the more deep seated issues i have. maybe some of the lighter stuff, where i can connect with others, but not be too upset if that connection doesn't happen. and if i discuss the lighter stuff, i'll probably have more capacity to just let the unhelpful/inaccurate comments go, instead of being my analytical self, who tends to demand a high level of accuracy in what's said.