wi, maybe I am being too naive again. However, I think as I read your words that anyone who has experience with manipulative people like your ex can tell the reality. He is assasinating your character. You are a good mom and I would like for you to hold your head high and know that in front of the judge and anyone else who asks. It's not your fault woman in thins country get paid crap next to men's income. It's reality. You are listening to him inside and I wish I could shut him up for you. Take him out of you and throw him into a fire or a deep grave or an angry fast river, let the water wash him away so you are not carrying his abuse as a part of you. You do not deserve to be hurt. Remember that the crap he says is from him, he has issues, hold out a mirror when he is saying these things so they don't sink into your skin. As far as the daughter getting a D in math and he wants to send her to this big summer camp? Is there a summer math class she can take at home? Can she get involved with volunteering in a positive way in the community so that her wishes have credibility? Also, there are, believe it or not, people who are tutors who will tutor your daughter for free if they understand the issues. Also, she could barter with them and really take responsibility for her learning. She can mow and garden and clean. She can even look for summer work. I say all of this because if I tried to send my daughter off to a big camp, or any camp at 14 it would have been a disaster. That said, she has a great calculus tutor and is graduating fourth in her class.

My I am long winded, sorry. Good luck and don't let the ********* win.