regardless of where the other members of the group were coming from, it would absolutely suck to disclose something so private and personal and be met with nothing. i actually think that to convey compassion/mutual understanding through silence is a terribly difficult task, for even the most adept of us. it requires being totally present in the moment, and being able to sit with the other person and resonate.

of course it wasn't a conspiracy, but impy's T did encourage him to disclose, so she (he?) at least thought the group were capable of helping impy in some way. certainly she wouldn't have suggested it if she thought it was going to be met with anything less than compassion or understanding.

i'm sorry this happened, impy. i can imagine you came to us because you needed your feelings to be validated but we're also throwing in alternative interpretations into the package. maybe not quite what you needed, right now.

i'm wondering if you've gone back to group, and how things are sitting with you now. i'm so sad on your behalf . i disclosed to pdoc yesterday, and it's was the most momentous and supportive occassion in my therapy with him, or anyone, ever. i would have wished that your disclosure would have turned out the same way.